Physical & Mental

Pain there is the physical and there is mental kind of pain but how do we as humans deal with it? I don't know about you but I guess I sort of follow the  7 stages when adjusting to the pain in my life.

1. Shock & Denial 

2. Pain &Guilt 

3. Anger & Bargaining 

4. Depression, Reflection & Loneliness

5. Upward turn

6. Reconstruction

7. Acceptance & Hope

I often find myself in a state of denial and guilt when asked "whats the matter" I deflect, smile and say "nothing" it's easier to run and hide then face the facts and communicate which way you lean. Over the last several weeks I have tried facing the things I fear most head on. Pain is inevitable, we choose how we deal with it and denial is no longer an option for me. Feeding the wounds of negative thinking only brings me to the same conclusion time after time, it's time for change. Talking things through expressing how I am as helped become not only a person I have always seen for myself but a better partner, friend, co-worker, sister and daughter. I am only a small piece of what makes up a whole community and I feel as I am learning to face challenges I am becoming a more effective member. If you deal with things as it happens then you leave little room for error and that error can cause such unwanted pain, physically and mentally. 

“Face your life, its pain, its pleasure, leave no path untaken.”
― Neil Gaiman, The Graveyard Book